It was a weekly occurrence, my grocery store panic attacks.
I would pull up to the store, ready to get groceries, and the minute I would park, the anxiety would wash over me like a thunderstorm.
My heart would race, my chest felt tight, and my thoughts would race about how much I didn’t want to get out of the safety of my car and walk into this store full of people who were surely going to be judging me.
The most ironic part to this was that I was the leanest I had ever been in my life. At a time when I should have been proud of my body, I was 100% certain that people were judging me and picking me apart as I walked through the aisles.
I was exhausted, and I just wanted to walk through the grocery store and feel invisible. The stress of feeling as though I was being judged was making my life totally miserable.
After awhile, I started to think through why I might be feeling this way so I could stop being anxious every single time I was in public.
For one thing, even though I was lean at the time, I was standing in the mirror picking myself apart at every opportunity. I would examine every dimple of cellulite, every so-called imperfection and wallow in self-hatred over it. I would stare at my “Fitspiration” photos of women with bodies shaped nothing like mine and wonder when I was was going to look THAT good.
And because I was used to picking bodies apart (this is so embarrassing to admit but I’m always 100% honest with you), I was walking through life and doing the same to others around me. This was mostly for me to feel better about myself in some sad, backwards way, or it was to try and motivate myself to be better, but either way, I was judging.
And because we tend to project our own experience onto others, I naturally assumed that everyone around me was doing exactly the same thing – picking me apart too.
The worse I got, the worse the situation got. I’d judge them, assume they judged me back, and walk around feeling insecure and wanting to be invisible.
As I walked around, I would be thinking “Why is she looking at me? Is it this dress? I knew I looked fat.” The result of this lack of confidence was that my energy was very negative – I would avoid eye contact, walk around slumped over, with a protective “black cloud” around me. And the people around me would react to that negatively (looking at me like ‘what is wrong with this girl?’) which would reinforce my thought that everyone was judging me.
And then I had an epiphany.
Trying to find positive things about myself was impossible at that point, but….what if I could find positive things about other people? This actually felt a little easier to me, so I started stopping my judgments in their tracks, and finding something beautiful about those around me instead.
And even though I wasn’t expecting it, this changed everything for me.
In this week’s episode of the Fitness & Sushi podcast “How to Avoid the Comparison Trap and Stop Feeling Inferior”, I tell you exactly how I was able to use this simple strategy to go from anxious and insecure to feeling positive and confident in any situation.
You’ll also learn…
✅ Why we compare ourselves to others
✅ How comparison can derail your growth
✅ How to normalize comparison and make it work for you
✅ How to discern between detrimental and beneficial comparison
✅ 1 small action you can take to stop worrying what others are thinking of you
✅ Why even though I’m older than my husband Tony, he’s more mature
…and much more!
Check the episode out (click on your favorite podcast player below) and let me know what you think! And, please be sure and share this podcast with your friends and family who would benefit; we have a goal to get our positive message out to as many people as possible so that more people can live healthy lifestyles without all the misery and diet traps!