Back in the spring I started a brand new program, called the Strength in Mothers Mentorship, and it is literally my favorite thing ever. My favorite day every week is Wednesday, the day our members all get on a video call and check in with each other.
Earlier this year I had a gut instinct that the biggest thing the women in my programs were missing was connection. And this week’s call brought home for me just how much that instinct was right.
One of our members was really struggling and feeling alone. And on top of the struggling, she was embarrassed to admit that she was feeling this way. What I saw next from the women in our group made my heart burst…
One by one, each of them comforted her with stories of how they’d felt EXACTLY the same way, not just in the past but literally that very day/moment. You could see the heaviness of her shoulders begin to lift as she realized just how NOT alone she was in her feelings and struggles.
We live in a really strange time with social media, and there can be some cool benefits but also huge drawbacks.
We see nothing but everyone else’s highlight reel in our feeds, which can make us feel silently ashamed and separate. On top of this, the shaming of mothers (that used to be done with whispers at beauty shops and at garden clubs where there was no “share” button) is now broadcast with viral articles telling us how we’re killing our kids’ brain cells if they so much as look at a screen.
But our need for connection keeps us wired in, hitting refresh, and subjecting ourselves to images and words that make us feel really, really bad.
We all have a strong human need to feel as though others understand us and that our struggles are not isolated to just us. This is how we learn and grow, by sharing and connecting with others in the same situation. And when that is done in a productive and healthy way, the results are magical.
For the rest of my life I’ll never forget the smile of relief on that member’s face as we ended our call, and her subsequent check-ins in our group to tell us how much better she felt.
But what I really can’t wait to see is how magical this support will be when we’re all gathered IN PERSON, face to face at the Strength in Mothers Retreat and Workshop (September 27-29 in Austin, TX).
Over the next few days I’m going to be challenging you to really consider making this time for yourself, because I KNOW how much you need this. And look: I know, I HAVE FOUR KIDS BELIEVE ME I KNOW, how difficult it is to get a weekend away to do anything for yourself.
But that is EXACTLY the point.
We don’t connect enough. We don’t feel supported. We don’t think we deserve to feel like a human being who does nice things for herself like weekend getaways. We don’t spend money on ourselves. We feel guilty, like we’re taking away from our families.
I see it every single day, and I’ve lived it.
If that is you, you’re the one who needs the retreat the most. It’s going to be an amazing weekend full of special guest speakers, relaxation, movement, workshopping our food and body struggles, and sipping wine by the pool.
But most of all, it’s going to be a weekend of feeling like you have people in the world who fully understand you and relate to your story.
Time is running out for earlybird registration, and the cost is going from $297 to $497 in just a few days, and honestly, we might sell out by then anyways (spots are limited!).
So it’s time to make that decision for yourself – will you go on struggling alone, or will you come connect with your people?
Those who have already signed up and are making their travel plans are excited to meet and support you!
I know you probably have questions, so just hit reply to get my inbox!
PS- Here are what some of the ladies in the mentorship think about having that support and connection: