In my industry, I see a lot of shame and blame get thrown around about being healthy.
Have you noticed that every diet, every Pinterest pin, every program, every trainer throws that word around a lot – HEALTHY?
But the longer I’m in this industry, work with women, and learn more about myself, the more I seem to understand what no one in the industry seems to get:
Health is SO MUCH MORE than just the food you eat and the exercise you do.
As a young mom, I neglected my physical health due to complete overwhelm and very little knowledge on how to take care of myself. I was 30-40 lbs overweight and constantly yo-yo dieting.
Then when I did gain the knowledge about nutrition and exercise, lost all the weight and got super-fit, I became so extreme with it that my mental and emotional health began to suffer. In fact, it suffered so much that I ended up in my doctor’s office, sobbing to her because my life hadcompletely become about what I was going to eat and how I looked.
While you may have looked at my lifestyle at the time in isolation; my food, exercise, and the shape of my body, it looked healthy. I was eating nothing but protein and vegetables, I was exercising intensely, I had muscle and very little fat on my body.
But what you didn’t see was the war going on in my head; how I was meaner to myself than ever as I picked my body apart for not being perfect, how I was able to restrict for some time but it would always end in one giant weekend of bingeing every 6 weeks or so, how all I thought about was food.
I see this all the time in my programs. When moms come to me, they are usually at one end of this spectrum or the other: taking care of their physical health at the expense of their mental health, taking care of their mental health at the expense of their physical health, or just not taking care of anything.
This seems to happen to moms more than anyone because a) we are freaking overwhelmed and something’s gotta give and b) we feel so much pressure to “get our body back” that we either resist by neglecting it or succumb to the pressure and try to force it.
But we’ve been programmed to believe by popular culture that this is the only way to achieve health or to lose the weight after pregnancy. I fell for this lie and I see new moms in their most vulnerable part of life falling for it too, white-knuckling their way through or feeling guilt and shame if they aren’t.
If the pursuit of nutrition and physical fitness is causing…
- obsession – you don’t think about anything else
- fear – you’re afraid of food or situations where you might not be able to exercise or eat what is acceptable
- avoidance – you’re missing out on the moments that make life enjoyable because it doesn’t align with your fitness and nutrition goals
- distraction – you may be living those moments but not present because you’re thinking about how you’re going to pay the price later
- guilt – you always feel like you’re less than because you can’t follow the rules, or when you break these rules you are ashamed of yourself
…this is just as unhealthy as foregoing your nutrition and exercise needs.
When it comes to your health and quality of life, you’ve got to look at the BIG PICTURE, not just your physical body in isolation.
There IS a balance for everyone where you can pursue both physical and mental health, but you’re not going to find that in a cookie cutter program.
Develop your intuition, or work with a coach who can guide you through the process.
We’ll be talking about this struggle along with many more common issues at the Strength In Mothers Retreat and Workshop September 27-29 in Austin, TX, and if you come and make this commitment to yourself, I will help guide you to find the best balance for your chaotic life.
You’ll also be surrounded by supportive, caring women who will not only help give you insight on your own struggles but normalize your feelings too.
But earlybird pricing is only available for a couple more weeks…so don’t wait! These limited spots will sell out – I’ve had amazing feedback from my community about how much something like this is needed, and these kick-ass moms are going all in on themselves so they can live their best life NOW!
Let me know if you have questions!