First of all, just a reminder that I have only ONE opening left in my 1:1 coaching program and will be closing enrollment soon and raising my rates. So if you’ve been thinking about getting the high-level help you need, don’t wait, this spot will go fast.
Recently I gave an interview on my friend Jaclyn Ricchio Stover’s podcast (which you can listen to here), and she asked me a question that I tend to get really passionate about:
“What are the things that you see out there for moms that make you the most angry?”
My answer was “How long is your podcast?”
Hmmm, where do I begin… No Excuses. Get rid of the Mom Bod. Get your pre-baby body back. And let’s not even get started on Pinterest and all it’s body-negative, “How to have a Belly-Only Pregnancy” (OMG I seriously just put in the search term “pregnancy” to see what would come up and that one just made me physically nauseous).
After giving birth, our bodies can feel foreign to us. With all the changes of pregnancy and the hormonal tornado that is postpartum, we can end up feeling really bad about ourselves and our new bodies (not just in the first year but sometimes way beyond that as well).
This frustration combined with that vulnerability leads us to fall into dieting mindset traps that are not only prevalent in the fitness industry, but are specifically MARKETED to feed on our insecurities! And now because of this, restriction patterns combined with compulsive eating can then take over.
Now the baby is here and we’re overwhelmed, exhausted, have less time to devote to ourselves, all while being stuck in a cycle of restriction and compulsive eating (or just one of those two) without any clear direction. We only know what we’ve learned in popular culture from fitness and dieting “experts” who have no idea what it’s like for them or only care about selling them a gimmick.
The guilt is crippling but we start to believe something is wrong with us because other women are doing it.
This guilt and decreased self-esteem, which is most likely feeding body and food obsession, is now robbing us of all mental energy and robbing us of an enjoyable experience of motherhood.
This is the point where I usually meet these women. Disgusted with themselves, feeling guilty, trying diets and failing at them, and feeling miserable at a time when they should be feeling joy.
I know that they need a completely different approach that makes them feel better physically, but not at the EXPENSE of their mental health and psychological needs the way most diets and fitness programs are set up.
Not only that, but this time is actually an incredible opportunity to learn to trust and love their bodies, so they can be free of food and body obsession for LIFE.
I remember what it was like. And this experience can be frustrating and crippling, or it can be transformative and empowering.
The fitness industry is full of very bad, highly damaging messages and advice for new moms. If I can change that experience for women, I feel like I owe it to them. And I owe it to my previous self, who suffered through the crippling experience three times, and only had the positive, transformative experience once.
This is now my life’s work and when a new mom tells me that she came to me for weight loss advice but left me realizing that she was worthy of self-care and having her needs met and feels free to enjoy life as a mom, I know that my struggle was worth it.
I don’t think anyone sums up this up better than Courtney, who felt moved to work with me when her own daughter was born. She realized that she didn’t want her daughter growing up with these same pressures and negative mindsets around food and exercise, and that she wanted her to love herself enough to practice self-care. But she knew that in order to teach her that, she had to live it and didn’t know how.
This month I’ve welcomed several INCREDIBLE new women into my 1:1 program who were ready to do the same and knew that they were ready to invest in the “how”. I am off and running with these ladies but do have one more opening available before I re-structure my entire program and raise my rates.
If you feel, like Courtney did, that you are sick of the rollercoaster ride and ready to get off, I invite you to turn in an application to work with me.
We’ll discuss your specific struggles, your relationship with food, your relationship with your body, and how this high-level program can turn everything around for you just as it has with hundreds of my clients.
But this program is NOT for everyone, so please only apply if you are a) sick of gimmicks and trying to muck through it all alone or with bad advice from programs and trainers who don’t understand you and b) ready and willing to invest in your quality of life, your happiness, and your freedom.
PS – this last spot WILL go fast, and I don’t want you to keep struggling with food and your body when you could be enjoying your baby and your family…go ahead and take the chance on yourself.