Wow, I’m still on a high from the round table last night for our “test drive” of the Strength in Mothers Mentorship. My biggest take-away as the facilitator was this:
This mentorship is desperately needed in our community of moms.
The incredibly brave group of women who were able to make the call last night got out of their comfort zones and took action, showing up and investing time in connection and in themselves.
And man, did it pay off…
The relief at hearing their own stories reflected back in so many other women was palpable.
Some were feeling totally out of control with their bodies and food, and some were feeling way too controlling. Some had experienced being both too self-controlling and too self-neglectful, including myself.
And although our struggles and bodies and lives may look totally different on the outside, the biggest discovery they had was that the underlying theme was exactly the same:
- They had too many self-worth eggs in the body basket
- They weren’t in a state of self-care (not necessarily the actions, but the mindset!)
- Whether they’re in control or out of control, they’re thinking about food and their bodies constantly
- They are mentally exhausted and missing out on enjoying their babies and kids as much as they could be
- They are feeling isolated and alone because no one is talking about these things.
The thing I love about my own mentorship and that I saw happening in the call last night was when you’re in a large group connecting with others who are going what you’re going through, the mind-sharing is magical. You can open up and say exactly what you’re struggling with, and instantly have feedback and ideas that you never would have thought of on your own.
Because of this, you’re internalizing new ideas and beliefs at an accelerated pace that would take you years otherwise.
I could see the epiphanies happening on the faces in the call, and it made me want to weep.
THIS is what I envisioned when I created the Strength in Mothers Mentorship. I want moms like you to understand that your happiness, your freedom, your joy, your experience of motherhood, your mental and physical health are worth investing in.
As I told the ladies last evening, you probably have a graveyard of diets, fitness programs, supplements, books, coaches and trainers that have failed you. And you need to understand that if it worked but only temporarily, it didn’t work. Aren’t you sick of trying, making some progress, and losing it and starting over?
I can tell you with absolute confidence after working with hundreds of women and experiencing the change personally – what’s missing is your mindset and the safe, loving support of others who want to heal right alongside you. I’ve watched the process unfold so many times in my coaching programs that I know it like the back of my hand.
Get your mind right, the body will follow.
And I get it!! This is totally different, it’s a big investment of time and finances, and you don’t know if it will “work”. Your trust with your body is probably broken, your trust with yourself may be as well. I’ve been there. I think we all have.
But somewhere deep down, if there is even a tiny voice saying “I deserve better than this”, you owe it to yourself to take that leap. Imagine looking back and realizing that because you took that action, you:
- are thinking less and less about your body and food
- are effortlessly practicing self-care like healthy food and exercise that used to feel so forced or that you avoided completely
- are able to focus more on your babies and are better able to enjoy this one chance you get at motherhood
- can walk into a restaurant without feeling stressed over what to eat or leave feeling stuffed and disappointed
- have the blueprint to reach your naturally healthiest body and weight without restriction, misery, or deprivation
(And if you need reassurance, make sure you watch the call to hear directly from some of the women whom I’ve worked with and lives have been totally transformed by this process, or go here to read and watch testimonials)
I know it can feel selfish to take time and money for yourself as a mom, especially when both are already tight. But this is an investment with a return that will last you for the rest of your life. You don’t get this time back.
As I tearfully told the ladies on the call, I wasted my chance with my first three babies, who are now teenagers. I was exhausted, constantly dieting, giving everything to them and nothing to myself. Because of this I was short-tempered, not in any photos with them, and went through my days feeling like I was drowning rather than being present. I thought that giving all of my resources to them was what I was supposed to do: put them first.
I got to have one more chance with my youngest, who is now 5, and the difference was glaringly obvious right away. This time I prioritized my needs so I could best take care of him. I felt present and happy, I was healthy and felt fueled and energized, and all of my mental energy that used to be devoted to dieting was freed up to focus on him.
And my teenagers tell me all the time – “Gosh mom, you were so miserable when we were little, I like you much better now!”
So what I thought was selfish – self-care – was actually the least selfish thing I could do. It wasn’t just an investment in me, it was in investment in my entire family.
There is still time to apply for the Strength in Mothers Mentorship, but I’ll be closing enrollment soon so that I can get to work with the ladies who were ready to take action and made that decision to invest in themselves.
AND because I’m so confident that this will change your life, as a bonus for signing up for the next 24 hours ONLY, I will be including a 6 month membership into my #FastFitMoms club with the mentorship ($250 value)! You MUST apply, be accepted and sign up by Saturday evening at midnight in order to claim this bonus, so don’t wait!
This is a no-brainer.
Let me know if you have questions,