When I first began coaching postpartum women who were trying to lose the extra weight of pregnancy, I thought all I had to do was hand over a macro count or a meal plan, they’d follow it, and we’d make adjustments based on how their body reacted.
I mean sometimes, it WAS that simple. Every so often a unicorn would come along who had zero adherence issues, a healthy relationship with food, would follow the program, and then thank me as she checked off her goal weight and rode off into the sunset, satisfied.
But for the other 99.9% of these women, it turned out to be SO MUCH more complicated.
About half of them just couldn’t make themselves eat what was assigned to them, even when it was tailored to their specific tastes. The other half followed the program rigidly but often, usually late at night or on the weekends, found themselves at the bottom of an entire box of cookies or pint of ice cream, wondering what the hell had happened.
Most also struggled with weigh-ins. When the scale wasn’t moving in the right direction, they wanted to give up the healthy food and exercise that was so good for them, just because it wasn’t “working”. They would have emotional melt-downs and beat themselves up. When it was moving in the right direction, they started to feel “safe” and would suddenly relax and give up the healthy food and exercise that was so good for them♀️.
Almost all of them felt so guilty about eating anything off-plan or that they considered “junk food”, you’d think they’d committed a crime.
And the body image…no matter where we were in the process…oh my God it was heartbreaking. Reading what women thought of themselves and their post-baby bodies was something my empathic soul could hardly bear week after week.
Underscoring all of this for these clients was the total and complete overwhelm, sleep deprivation, and exhaustion of being a new mom.
I started to realize pretty much right away that meal plans and macro calculations were just not going to be enough.
I had to figure out a way to help my clients get into the right mindset, the same one I had cultivated for myself after doing it the miserable way for years and years.
And I felt the crushing responsibility of helping these women love themselves weighing heavier and heavier on me each day. I couldn’t just ignore the pain that was rampant in this community.
So I decided to write little weekly lessons for them to read, and these were assigned to them with a small amount of homework each week. As I got better and better at recognizing the pitfalls of dieting and substituting weight loss for self-worth, I developed more and more effective tools and strategies for them and added it to the lessons.
Eventually, this curriculum became my Strength In Mothers program, and it has now helped hundreds and hundreds of women ditch the diets, heal their food and body obsession, and implement a healthy lifestyle without misery.
Besides my kids, it’s the best thing I’ve ever created.
This curriculum has had many incarnations and overhauls as I’ve perfected the process that I use with my clients, and has developed into specific systems: The NES system for sustainable healthy eating, The Progress Pyramid for staying focused on what motivates long-term, Sliding Scale Goals, to name a few.
My clients and the women who have purchased the program on its own have LOVED IT:
This curriculum is the basis for the Strength In Mothers Mentorship, which is currently open for enrollment.
ICYMI, I’ll be walking you and a supportive community of women through this curriculum together in a small, intimate setting. I’ll teach you the same process I teach my 1:1 clients, but you’ll also be able to hear unique insights from other moms who are in the same boat as you. Here is what you will learn in this mentorship:
If you’ve been feeling disconnected from your body, isolated from others, and like maybe something was “wrong” with you, you belong in this mentorship.
How much time and money have you wasted on fitness programs and supplements and shakes and meal plans that haven’t addressed your mindset? How much longer will you suffer in isolation, hoping that something just clicks?
NO OTHER PROGRAMS address these psychological needs of new moms, and no one else is offering this supportive community environment. This is a no-brainer!
And if you want to come and take a “test drive”, don’t forget to join our round table discussion tomorrow (Thursday) evening at 8PM EST / 5 PM PST. To RSVP, sign up here.
PS-I’ll be answering all your questions about the mentorship and anything else that’s on your mind at the roundtable, so don’t miss out!