Last week I had the most fun teaching a group of moms about food and body obsession, how it can blow up after pregnancy, and some of my strategies to deal with it. We learned how relying on the scale can actually cause us to backtrack, the diet pitfalls that keep us vacillating between “on the wagon” and “off the wagon”, and what to do about all of it.
I also decided a few weeks back to set up phone calls with women from all over the country to see what they were struggling with. As I suspected, almost all of them were frustrated with the same things my clients and I have struggled with in the past:
- they are overwhelmed when it comes to taking care of themselves
- all they think about is food and “fixing” their bodies
- they are constantly comparing themselves to others
- they don’t understand why they can’t just “stick with it”
- they’re beating themselves up all the time
- they’re stress and/or emotionally eating
- they have no flexibility and are either all in or all out when it comes to food, self-care and fitness
Every day since 2013, I’ve tried to reach as many women as possible to help them with these super COMMON issues. But what has always frustrated me is that each woman I speak with feels ALONE, ISOLATED, and even ABNORMAL.
Yet between my own experience with 4 babies, interacting with over 4 million visitors to my site, the thousands of emails I get from my community, and the coaching I do with my 1:1 clients, I know that this isn’t true. So many moms are struggling with the triggers that can come along with a pregnant or post-partum body, causing them to use common dieting practices that DO NOT WORK and actually MAKE EVERYTHING WORSE.
So why do I seem to be the only one who knows this? Why are we all struggling in isolation?
Last year, when I was struggling with my business and nothing was working, I made the super-scary decision to invest over $15,000 to join a mentorship of female entrepreneurs, led by a coach who was doing EXACTLY what I wanted to be doing. I was so tired of shooting in the dark, so tired of going it alone, so exhausted from not having anyone’s feedback or support. What was I doing wrong? There were no answers, just frustration.
I looked around for meet-ups, but nothing was specific to exactly what I did and wanted…until I found the mentorship.
This past year has been nothing short of magical. The mysteries of how others made their businesses work were suddenly only a phone call, text, or an email away. The inspiration and action-taking of the women I was surrounded by was contagious.
This January on my flight home from our quarterly meet-up, I was thinking about how much this mentorship had changed not only what I was achieving but how I thought of myself…how the minute I signed up, I went from “someone struggling to run a business” to “Business Owner Who Invests In Herself and Her Life”.
Every day I coach moms who are struggling with dieting, food and body obsession, and their post-baby bodies. Often I will tell one client about an epiphany another one had, or how they approached the same struggle, and think to myself how much they would benefit from each other’s experience and support – in EXACTLY the same way I benefitted from the women in my group.
This sparked an idea.…what if I created a mentorship where I led these women through the same lessons and coaching that I use with my one-on-one clients, but offer it in a high-touch, intimate COMMUNITY setting instead? Something that offered a SAFE, body-positive, understanding, supportive environment with the chance to connect regularly?
I could teach the same exact lessons and strategies I teach my 1:1 clients, but in a community setting where everyone could connect over their own struggles, share their insights, feel validated and supported, and go through the process of healing food and body relationships and learning healthy eating patterns TOGETHER.
I started teaching this process and strategies years ago when I realized that I could hand macros and meal plans over to women to lose the baby weight, but if they weren’t in the right mindset, it either wouldn’t work at all, it would only work temporarily (and they’d gain it all back eventually) or they were still miserable because the food and body obsession never went away, even at their goal weight.
I believe that in this intimate community environment, these lessons can be even MORE effective as we observe other women like us learn to live with freedom and practice self-compassionate self-care; women who are living similar lives to ours.
I’ve been mulling this over for awhile, and finally decided to start privately inviting women to join that I knew would a) benefit tremendously and b) offer incredible insight to the group. And this dream group is slowly coming together.
This mentorship will be a PERFECT mix of women who have worked with me before and are familiar with my tools and strategies right alongside women who are brand new to my coaching and systems but are eager to learn.
You’ll be working directly with me each week for a fraction of what I charge my 1:1 clients, with the ADDED benefit of your own support network.
It’s called the Strength in Mothers Mentorship, and I’m accepting applications through next week, when the group will be getting started on our 6 month journey together.
Questions? Just leave a comment!