You just had a baby. Your life is telling you that you are exhausted, tired, and have new priorities. The media is telling you that you should be out on the beach in a bikini looking “better than ever” or like a baby was never in your body, praising the celebrities who do. So even though you feel so happy that you have this new little person in your life, there is a constant cloud hanging over your head that reminds you that you HAVE to get back in shape, or your new body is not good enough, or you just feel guilty for the state of your body – even though your body is completely NORMAL.
This lady here, writing these words, is fed up with it. I hated myself after my first three pregnancies, and I had weak moments even after this 4th fit pregnancy where I felt guilty for having this website and not being perfect right away. I’m fed up with the messages on Instagram “fitspo” accounts, magazine covers and tabloid shows that worship only one type of post-baby body.
Here are 5 reasons why every single one of us should be prouder than hell of our new bodies.
You made a human being!
You brought LIFE into this world! Not only life, but the life of this perfect little human being who is going to be by your side and love you like no one else in this world loves you until the day you die. Your body performed an absolute miracle by creating a human being. It’s easy to forget this, but remind yourself of this all the time! You provided nourishment, comfort, safety, health, and love to this tiny human. You are amazing.
Our society has conflicting values.
In this western society, we value mothers. Being a mother is considered to be honorable and our place in society is highly valued. But then, once we reach motherhood and step into the next phase of our lives, we’re expected to bring our pre-pregnancy bodies with us! What??? God forbid we have a a bump for longer than a few weeks after birth, or stretch marks, or loose skin, or extra fat. This culture wants us to have the baby, go through the physical process of pregnancy and birth, and then still have a flat stomach, smooth skin, perky breasts, and a tight vagina. No sign that you ever gave birth is allowed, and shame on you if it shows.
Let me say too that I can also see a backlash happening towards women who do find themselves in the category of bodies who bounced back. Let us not shame ANYONE.
ALL BODIES ARE BEAUTIFUL AFTER PREGNANCY. All of them.
Because self-love leads to self-care which leads to a healthy, fit body.
Love yourself today, whatever phase that you are at, and you will discover a desire to take care of yourself just like you take care of your baby. This leads to feeding yourself more nutritious food because it’s good for you, becoming more active because it feels good, and stopping the cycle of beating yourself up when you just can’t be perfect. The result will be a healthy and fit body made from love, not punishment. Guess which one feels better and lasts longer?
The body made from love.
Because you are YOU; there’s no one else like you.
You are a snowflake, darling. There is no one out there who is exactly like you. No one else has your DNA, your family, your job, your schedule, your budget, your influences, your health, your anything. You are so perfectly and uniquely YOU. So don’t compare yourself to anyone else out there because they all have their own stuff too. Focus on treating yourself with the utmost love and respect, because that is what every single one of us deserves.
You have a constant reminder of what you’ve been through.
What if instead of looking at stretch marks, extra fat, and loose skin as something gross and disgusting, we thought of them as a right of passage, a badge of honor, a beautiful reminder of our journey? If you’re looking up ways to get rid of stretch marks (spoiler alert: there are none), you’re letting society dictate to you how you should view your body. You can change this simply by viewing the changes to your body in a different way. They are your medal of honor for the amazing thing your body did (see reason 1).